Preserving the Burning Fire – On Outgrowing and Passing on Toys

S&M stands for sexual magic

– Patrick Califia

Passing on toys and gear has a long tradition in the BDSM and fetish community. One of the reasons for that is the concept of energy transfer during a scene. What happens during play is more than just the exchange of mental or physical force between the top and the sub. An intense connection between them is formed that consists out of more than the sum of its parts (If you are curious about this more spiritual aspect of BDSM I recommend the works of Marc Thompson or Joeff Mains). For some people this connection is the origin of headspace, for some the sole reason they engage in BDSM and certainly an intense, overwhelming and mind-shattering experience when you experience it for the first time.

The First Restraints I have ever bought: The McHurt Ihsan Wrist, Ankle and Boots Cuff and Hand Suspension Restraints

The First Restraints I have ever bought: The McHurt Ihsan Wrist, Ankle and Boots Cuff and Hand Suspension Restraints

The concept of energy exchange also includes that some of the energy of the players stays in their gear and toys. For that reason some pieces of gear or toys are special and dear to perverts and not easily parted with. Most often floggers, boots or bar vests are considered to be special in that way. In my case three pairs of McHurt restraints are that way. They were among the first things I reviewed for this website and liked them a lot. It feels, they have been with me forever. But when I looked up the order date for writing this article I was stunned: I had only bought them in early December 2011. Not even half a decade felt like a life time. This illustrates really well what they mean to me. All the fun, experiments, surprising experiences and intense emotions are somewhat bound to them. Yet as I matured as a kinkster I outgrew them. While I still stand to my 3 ½ year old review and consider them a good pair of restraints to start out with I want more: More padding, more D-rings, more build quality, more features. So I choose the Fetters Padded Locking Wrist and Ankle Cuffs from Regulation to replace them.

This evaluation process happened with some toys over the last year. I looked at them and realized I haven’t been using them in a long time; saw no real play scenario for them anymore so I sold them to friends, to strangers, to anybody interested. These restraints were different. They not only represent for me the scenes I had in them but also my getting serious about BDSM: Committing to my longings, considerably investing money in this part of myself and somehow giving my desires a physical representation. Yet despite all these arguments I decided to pass them on. As soon as I would get the new ones the old ones would become an exhibition piece. Laying in my toy chest, reminding me of good times and fond memories. But like an instrument not being played anymore, they would be a dead accumulation of matter, slowly fading away, losing all the energy stored in them. So giving them away just by chance was no option! They are too special for me to see them disappear out of my life. Ultimately I decided to give them to a young pervert who is slowly exploring his desires, being just like me 4 ½ years ago willing to commit to his dreams and turn them into reality. So these special pieces will continue to live on in the BDSM scene until he outgrows them and hopefully then passes them on to someone special just like I did.

As important as these restraints are to me I am lucky that I am not parting completely from them: The set I ordered back then also included a pair of boot restraints, large enough to even fetter MX boots. A toy I have not seen elsewhere yet and thus I am keeping it: For memory sake, for current play, for future times when this mythical and mind-blowing bond between top and sub manifests again.

Hail thee who play

– Michael McClure

E-Stim Electro Whisker

electrowhiskLike every year for Folsom Europe this website went a bit quiet and will be back next week with the final stretch of the e-stim special. However during Folsom Europe I had the chance to try out a wonderful devious and delicate toy I want to introduce as a desiderate: The E-Stim Electro Whisker from Regulation.

It is a whisker made out of thin conduction stainless steel rods that packed into an isolated shaft. On top of the shaft is a 4mm banana jacket for connection to your power box. This toy is quite devilish: Because the rods are quite flexible you can vary the contact area very rapidly. So the sensation can momentarily change from a mild tingle to a hellish sting. The toy costs £40 directly at E-stim or £53.99 at Regulation. I had so much fun with it as a top and a sub, I can’t wait to add it to my collection!

Regulation Bi-Polar Ring Set

Vendor: Regulation

Construction

The Bi-Polar Ring Set consisting of a 40mm and a 50mm Diameter Ring

The Bi-Polar Ring Set consisting of a 40mm and a 50mm Diameter Ring

The set consists of two rings: One with 50mm diameter and another one with 40mm diameter. They are made out of white, translucent silicone. On the inside there runs a strip of black conductive silicone which doesn’t go all the way around thus forming two poles. On the bottom is a little rectangular appendix through which both conductive silicone cores run which end into jackets for 2mm pin.

Playing with the toy

This toy is meant for being worn like a normal cockring. Through the flexibility of the material and the two sizes it fits even people with a larger pack. For people with a Western European standard size dick you can put the smaller ring onto the shaft which is especially interesting just below the glans. Having two poles you don’t need an additional electrode to create a sensation. If you do use both rings, try around with cross wiring them or attaching both onto one pole for interesting effects. With one ring below the glans and another on the penis root some testees even learned to cum when using a stroke program. All this properties make this set the perfect choice in combination with a remote controlled box like the Erostek ET302R when walking around. The rings stay in place and you don’t have to worry about one or both electrode falling off.

Detail of the 50mm Ring with a Lead for Mono Polar Use Attached

Detail of the 50mm Ring with a Lead for Mono Polar Use Attached

When in doubt which ring to choose because one is a bit looser and the other is a bit tighter I would always recommend taking the tighter one if this doesn’t cut circulation. If that isn’t the case this toy works surprisingly well as a cockring though it is not too comfortable being so thin. Through the flexibility of the material the ring moves quite a bit so when walking around so I highly recommend being shaven when wearing it for a commando public scene – or enjoy an additional stimulation. Speaking of stimulation the relatively low mass and small conducting area the sensations produced through this toy will be more on the stingy side. Through the pressure onto the body there will be good connectivity most of the so the whole contact area will be used for the smoothest stimulation possible. Generally speaking I would not advise using conductive gel with this toy because the added slick can cause the ring to slip off when the dick is soft.

Besides being a cockring this toy makes for an interesting skin play electrode. Simply wear an isolating glove (p.e. a latex one), apply enough pressure that the conductive areas get in touch with the skin and move the ring over the body using water based lube. If you stay below the waist line it is a secure way of play to make the sub enjoy a travelling sensation without too much sting unlike from a pin wheel p.e..

When doing other forms of play especially edging when this ring is worn please keep in mind that silicone based lube will disintegrate the toy! After play simply was it in warm water with a mild detergent, let it dry and disinfect it with alcohol.

Conclusion: Versatile Bi-Pole for mostly Stingy Sensations.
Pro Cons Where to get Price
Only need one electrode for stimulation Can create only stingy sensations Regulation £34.99
Ideal for mobile play
Two rings will fit most

 

E-Stim System 2b Pro Pack

All E-Stim power boxes I have talked about so far are more or less easy to use and thus a bit limited to the way the stimulation can be tailored to your ideas. Last weekend I have subbed to a top using the Erostek ET312b and loved it as ever yet I do not really to own one: It is big, heavy and with the small display and many buttons difficult to use. This is not a toy as a sub I can just give to a top unfamiliar with it and say “Try it out on me.” Yet I sometimes wish for more elaborate play setup than my ET232 can provide.

The E-Stim System 2b Pro Pack

The E-Stim System 2b Pro Pack

E-Stim System, the make of the awesome bi-polar electrodes and many other fun E-Stim toys, carry what I believe to be a solution to my problem: The E-Stim System 2b. Or more precisely the 2b Pro Pack. The box is not significant larger than my ET232 so storing and travelling with it will not be a problem. It runs on 9V batteries which are widely available.

So much for the practical part. When it comes to play the box offers a two channel output and digital, stereo audio processing. The control concept on the box is similar to the one of the ET312b. But, the 2b has a sophisticated remote control suit for your computer. You can either control all functions on a computer inside the playroom or even control your sub’s box via the internet when you are not around. I have only seen screen shots of the computer UI but it seems quite intuitive and easy to learn.

Sadly I have neither topped nor subbed with this box but I have many great things about it and am anxious to try it out. If you want to provide me with a review sample of the 2b Pro Pack, please get in touch with me.

If you just start out with E-Stim or want to use the computer connectivity right out of the box, I would recommend the Pro pack which comes with everything you need. It costs £359 and can be purchased either directly from the manufacturer with free shipping. If you don’t need a wired power supply or the computer interface you can get just the box with some leads for £299 either directly from E-Stim System or Regulation.

E-Stim System Conductive Rubber Cock Loops

Vendor: E-Stim System

A Pair of E-Stim System Cock Loops

A Pair of E-Stim System Cock Loops

Construction

The design of this toy is quite simple: you get a pair of 26cm long tubes made out of conductive silicone. Depending on the leads system you are using, you can choose between tubes with a 2mm or 4mm internal diameter. Each tube comes with collar through which you can pull both ends in order to create loops.

Playing with it

I consider this toy THE E-Stim essential. If you buy one pair of electrodes for your box, make it this because it is so versatile. The probably most often used play scenario for this toy is CBT: Put a ball stretcher on, lay one loop around the penis root and the other one around the stretched balls and try some different programs. With some training most men can even turn their box with these electrodes into a milker. For this stimulation put one loop either around the penis root or on the bottom of the shaft and the other one right below the glans and select the stroke program. If you do this on a regular basis your dick will most likely learn to reach an orgasm from the currency induced nerve irritation on the frenulum. For faster trainings results I would recommend adding an anal set up the stimulates the prostate in the same pattern. But always keep in mind to not overdo the stimulation because especially with electro the nerves of your genitals are easily overwrought. So the stimulation might have a nice torture aspect getting your endorphins flowing but won’t make you come. One thing I have heard people doing but strongly would disadvise doing is using the loops as a substitute for an electro sound! The loops are cut from a long tube but the edges are not deburred so they can injure your ureatha! For this kind of games invest into genuine electro sounds or special glans electrodes.

Detail of the Collar Holding the Loops in Shape

Detail of the Collar Holding the Loops in Shape

When playing on the penis I would always recommend putting a TPR stretcher – like mine of the many stretchers and cockrings from Oxballs or Keepburning – because there are easy to handle, are not conducting and will keep the electrodes from touching and thus from short-circuiting. Speaking of short-circuiting: there are bi-polar version of this kind of toy out there which have an isolating connector in the middle! This loops – like most others – are a monopoles. Putting a leads into both ends will short-circuit your box and can destroy it!

Detail of a Connection to a 4mm Lead

Detail of a Connection to a 4mm Lead

But this toy is not limited to CBT. When wearing an isolating glove use the pair as a skin electrode and caress the sub’s skin with it. You can even make an anal electrode out of the pair: Either put one of them into your ass and the other somewhere onto your skin below the waist or put an isolating layer between them – p.e. a piece of freezer bag which is large enough to keep the electrodes separate even when the electrodes shift a bit – and shove both up your butt in order to create a bi-pole.

Maintenance wise this toy is very easy to handle: After having played with it, just wash it in hot water with a bit of detergent in it. Once it’s dried spray or wipe it with a disinfectant. This is especially important when you have used it below your glans because even unnoticed drops of precum can transmit STDs!

Another important play and maintenance aspect to keep in mind is the lube: since the loops are made out of silicone, never use silicone lube on it. On the one hand silicone lube doesn’t conduct currency and on the other hand silicone lube will destroy the silicone of the loops.

Conslusion: Essential and inexpensive E-Stim toy
Pro Cons Where to get Price
Easy to use Maybe a bit short for really BIG cock roots E-Stim Systems £29
Regulation £27,99
Flexible

Erostek ET302R

The box content of the ET302R

The box content of the ET302R

On Sunday I wrote a review of my current electro box, the Erostek ET232. As you could read I really like the box: It is small, powerful and versatile. Yet sometimes at play I wish for something more: A second box for a more elaborate electrode setup, especially with a microphone for a really torture setup (described here). But there is more why I would want an ET302R. Since it is a digital box you can set the output volume very precise and the box stops at the ramping program after one wave so it is ideal for training or getting the endorphins flowing.

The ET302R in action

The ET302R in action

The piece de resistance is that it is a small, portable, remote controllable power box so you can take a walk with your sub and shock him whenever you think he (or you) deserves it. Even just the thought that just a little push on the provided remote control gives most subs a tingle of excitement.

The box costs $399,95 at Mr S and £344.99 at Regulation for all the people living in the EU interested in that box.

Erostek ET232

Vendor: Mr S (North Amerikca) or Regulation (EU)

Construction

The Erostek ET232

The Erostek ET232

On top of the device are four rotary knobs: With the left and the right knob in the upper third are used to control the intensity of the individual channels. Next to them a blue LED indicated when the channels are putting out power. With the middle knob the programs can be adjust. The fourth knob is for turning the device on by choosing one of the 15 programs.

The electronic of the e-stim device is housed in a 111mm x 83mm x 38mm white plastic case which has an abrasive surface on the sides and bottom for better grip. On front are 5 holes: On the far left and fare right are 3,5mm jack sockets for the leads. The socket for the power adapter is located in the middle. Left of it is the microphone input and on the right the 3,5mm jacket for mono audio input. On the bottom is the hatch under which the 9v block battery for mobile usage can be put.

Detail of the Inputs and Outputs of the ET232

Detail of the Inputs and Outputs of the ET232

The box comes with a detailed instruction book and two leads.

Playing with it

I have been wanting to review this toy for quite a while but couldn’t find an angle how to review it. The sensation experience by the sub depends on a number of factors like which electrode is used where on the body. So the description of the individual programs and the their manipulations can only be a rough one. Generally speaking the stimulation will be a bit “softer” compared to a digital box.

Program Name Induced Sensation Possible Manipulation
Waves Wave-like sensation with random wave length and intensity Speed of waves
Intense Unmodulated waves Left: Highest frequency changing between both channels

Middle: High frequency on both channels

Right: Higher frequency on both channels

Random Random wave like sensations No effect
Audio Soft Even slightest noise reaching the microphone fires device on both channels No effect
Audio Loud Fires both channels equally either through input of the microphone or the 3,5mm audio jacket. Sensitivity of the microphone or the audio input
Audio Waves Audio on the left channel and wave on the right channel Sensitivity of the microphone or the audio input on the left channel
User High frequency that feels quite smooth yet intense on both channels Left: Constant stimulation on the right channel and regular pauses on the left one

Middle: Alternating between channels

Right: Constant stimulation on the left channel and regular pauses on the tight one

HiFreq Feels like user Left: Constant stimulation on the right channel and regular pauses on the left one

Middle: Alternating between channels

Right: Constant stimulation on the left channel and regular pauses on the tight one

Climb Pulsed sensations that increases up to the maximum selected   intensity Climbing speed
Throb Like HiFreq but with a deeper throbbing sensation Frequency of the pulses
Comb Like sensation like wave program but changing between the channels Change frequency between the channels
Thrust Depending on intensity tickling to needle piecring sensation Speed of the thrust
Thump Short intense random impulses alternating on both channels Rate of thumps
Ramp Steadily increasing sensation up to selected maximum intensity and then increasing again from zero on both channels Level modulation
Stroke Steady wave form on both channels Wave length
Detail of the Blue LED that flashes when the Box fires

Detail of the Blue LED that flashes when the Box fires

Being an analogue box the program you select will run on both channels. There is no way to select a different program for channel A and channel B. Also when playing with the device please keep in mind that when using one program for an hour the device will automatically shut down. So especially in long term scenes regularly change quickly between two programs to ensure a more or less continuous sensation. Another down side in dark play areas are the blue flashing LEDs which indicate stimulation. They are so bright that you can’t see the intensity level you selected anymore. Luckily the indicator is raised to with a bit of practice you can feel the level yet still I found it a bit annoying.

But these are minor draw backs because I love the box for great usability. The four knobs are easily explained. So when a top comes over who has never done electro play and is supposed to top you with it he will quickly get the hang of it. The same applies when you play with yourself: When you are all horny and worked up, just twist a knob without having to go into menus to bring you more intense pleasures. Another good attribute is that compact form factor. With two silicone loops and an electrode you have enough possibilities to have an extended scene in less space than half a liter. So I know of a lot of people (including myself) that take the ET232 on trips or to dungeons when you don’t want to travel with too heavy luggage.

Detail of the Battery Compartment

Detail of the Battery Compartment

The fact sheet says that the ET232 has 60 micro coulombs per pulse versus the ET312b which has 80 micro coulombs per pulse. Of cause when it comes to stimulation more is always better but the small box is definitely powerful enough to make you cum, scream or beg for more. Speaking of fact sheets: I have talked to people who have owned their boxes for nearly a decade and being an electronic device it will sooner or later have some issues. They have ensured me that with a little technical knowledge and talent this box is easy to repair; the manufacturer ErosTek has recently launched a spare part section on their website to it can now be repaired with original parts. However: I have to strongly urge you to only let a true electrical engineering expert repair this box because male functions can cause serious harm or at best unintended and unwanted unpleasant stimulation!

Finally a word of warning for people wanting to order it inside the EU: All Erostek devices I have seen so far are lacking the CE marking which is a requirement for a device being sold in the EU. Several friends of mine had their Erostek device being confiscated by custom officers in several different countries when ordered directly from the USA. The only safe way to get an Erostek device into the EU is either ordering it through Regulation in London or purchase it when visiting a country outside the EU and bring it with you personally (even though theoretically it can be confiscated by custom at the air port).

Conslusion: Small yet sophisticated electro box for beginners and pros.
Pro Cons Where to get Price
Powerful Same program on both channels Mr S $299,95
Fun Programs Too bright flashing LEDs
Easy to use Regulation £344,99
Compact
Good value for money
Easy to repair

 

Mr S Bishop Head Harness

Vendor: Mr S or Regulation

The Mr S Bishop Head Harness with Eye and Mouth Cover Attached

The Mr S Bishop Head Harness with Eye and Mouth Cover Attached

I have long wanted to review this toy but since it is so complex to describe the construction I always chose something different to review despite being one of my favorite bondage toys. But since it is my birthday today I sat down to treat you to this review.

Construction

Before I talk about the construction a short word about measurements: Because there are no less than 6 straps with roller buckles and a Velcro patch it is almost impossible to talk about sizes because if you fasten one strap it naturally affects the other. I have tried out this head harness on subs with really small and really large heads and really beefy necks and it fit everyone.

The Mr S Bishop Head Harness without Any Attachements

The Mr S Bishop Head Harness without Any Attachements

The bottom of the head harness is a double layer of thick, yet soft leather which forms a collar. Onto it a strap with a roller buckle and three welded D-rings are riveted under thick saddle leather. Into this double leather layer the face mask part of the harness is sowed. It is made out of soft garment leather. While the part covering the neck and the chin is a single layer of leather, the part covering the face is also lined with garment leather. The face mask is roughly triangular shaped. On its ends it has another saddle leather strap with a roller buckle riveted onto it. At the end of this part and the collar a 90mm by 50mm patch of industrial grade Velcro is sowed for a firm and precise closure. The central part has an opening for the mouth and the nose with snap buttons around. Onto the lower ones you can put a through 2 roller buckles adjustable double layer garment leather strap. On it you can put one of two leather patches that come with the head harness. Both are made out of saddle leather lined with garment leather. One is just the patch with riveted loops to put on the strap, the other featured a pecker gag like their lockable gag. The upper 6 snap fasteners are for a triangular eye cover. The face masks runs out into a long leather strap onto which 4 other straps with roller buckles are sowed. Through these 4 straps you adjust the head harness so that it fits tightly on the sub’s head.

Detail of the later Added Loop

Detail of the later Added Loop

An alteration I had made on my head harness is a patch of double layered garment leather which a local leather shop riveted on middle of the strap running over the head. Under this flap I can put a shackle as an added bondage point. I strongly believe that the guys at Mr S can do the same thing if you want it.

Playing with it

There are two components which makes this head harness an awesome toy. First there is the sensual aspect of this toy: As I have written almost two years ago kneeling in front of a top and having the straps fastened around your head is a very intimate experience and a great way into the scene.

Detail of the Welded D-Ring

Detail of the Welded D-Ring

Once this is done, soft leather is hugging the sub’s face and the rich intoxicating scent of leather envelopes him. But in order to create this great experience it takes a lot of practice and experience how to fasten the straps in order to get tight and symmetrical without having to try and undo them too often.

Detail of the Two Straps with Roller Buckels on the Collar

Detail of the Two Straps with Roller Buckels on the Collar

After having experienced the sensual experience of having the head harness put on and just being in it, it is now time to start playing with it. First there is the bondage feeling around the head. It is not as strong as a full mask you get laced into but still the pressure of the individual straps can be felt to create a tight bondage sensation. This is good especially for a bit claustrophobic people where a full mask would be too much. If you don’t tighten the straps too much the more “airy” feeling and appeal is good newbies who would also be overwhelmed by a full hood. Also in the lighter/ newbie section belong the eye cover and the gag. While the cover does block the sub’s sight and the gag it good for chewing on and kind of hard to spit out, they are more a psychological support of a scene than made for heavy play. If you want the real deal (total darkness or a thigh, secure gag) I recommend to look at the reviews of the Ultra Blindfold or the Lockable Gag both from Mr S. A nice psychological touch I am missing is that there is no locking option for the collar straps. For real bondage aficionados knowing that they are inescapable locked into bondage gear is a great mind fuck.

Detail of the Roller Buckle of the Straps which wrap around the Head

Detail of the Roller Buckle of the Straps which wrap around the Head

Detail of the Pecker Gag Stuck Through the Mouth Hole Showing the Inside Leather Lining

Detail of the Pecker Gag Stuck Through the Mouth Hole Showing the Inside Leather Lining

With three D-rings the head harness it has ample anchoring points for a leash or attaching mitts or restraints. While the rings are tempt to be used for binding down the sub I would not advise it because there is a chance that the subs will strangle himself. Because of this I had the loop on top added. If you use the collar as an anchoring point make sure that the top of the head is even bound harder to when the sub tries to get up his head is stopped before he chokes on the collar. Another interesting way of using this head harness for bondage is attaching ropes to the four straps around the head and tying them to a bondage frame so the sub can’t move his head. It takes a bit of practice and time but the one sub which I witnessed being bound like that was entering bondage bliss after he realized that he can’t turn his head.

Conslusion: The best head harness I have yet played with
Pro Cons Where to get Price
Many different sensations Difficult to put on and adjust Mr S (Manufacturer) $379.95
Three D-Rings  No locking collar straps Regulation £389
Very versatile
High material & build quality

 

Buyer’s Guide to Pup Gear

Ever since I started ToyTorture.com I have been asked why I don’t write about pup gear. There were two reasons for that: First I usually don’t write about fetish gear because there is no way to say that a is better than b when b makes you drool and a leave you cold. Second I am not into pup play and since I always try out the toys I write about myself and I don’t get the head space effect of pup toys I found no way to write about pup toys. But the mails and questions especially from kinkster just getting into the pup scene did not stopp. I have been woofed and growled at, my legs have been humped at events while asking for advice and I have been told that it would be totally pawesome if I wrote about pup gear. So as a Christmas treat (ok, enough now of the bad puppy jokes) I spent the last couple of weeks looking at pup gear, talking to pup players and I finally wrote this (Beginners) Buyer’s Guide to Pup Gear.

As always: If I have gotten something wrong or forgot something please let me know and help me improve this article.

Head Gear

What comes to mind first when you talk about puppy gear are the different puppy hoods. They come in two major styles: Full and open hood. Full hood encase the entire head. Since the pup play community has grown there are hoods out there for almost every breed of dog and they are made out of the major fetish materials rubber and leather. While the rubber ones come mostly only in classic black, there is a wide selection of different leather ones out there; just recently Mr S introduced custom leather puppy hoods catering to the most discriminating demands. Open hoods loosely resemble the style of head harnesses. They usually have a snout, ears and sometimes even a collar and come in rubber, neoprene and leather.

Not really specific puppy gear but purposes wise related are muzzles. Designed to keep the mouth of talkative subs or biting K9s shut they are more of a functional toy than designed to enhance the pup looks. You can get them made out of neoprene, leather or rubber, depending on your fetish and play style. The rubber muzzle from Regulation is quite sturdy but if you attach a leash onto it and the pup pulls to hard there is a chance that the rubber will tear. If the puppy is very active, stay with leather. I have talked to some guys who own puppy hoods and muzzles and they said that there are combinations where you can wear a hood and a muzzle. Sadly there is no general rule of thumb so if you want to wear both pieces of gear you have to try it out.

 

Tails

Another distinctive pup play toy is the tail. The most commonly used are tails that are attached to a butt plug. I would recommend the ones from Square Pegs because they are seamless and thus comfortable to wear even for a longer mosh or walk. They come in different tail shapes, colors and butt plug sizes. Choosing the right plug size is a bit difficult. I was told that it is useful to choose a plug one size larger than you can easily take because the tail stays in place even when you wag and romp without having to constantly pinch your sphincter. However the tail is of no use if you can’t insert it at all due to being too big. Another way of keeping the tail in place is wearing a special kind of harness.

This kind of tail has gained quite some popularity in the non-puppy ass play community: When you are wearing a tail while fucking someone the moving momentum of the tail gets transferred to the plug section which than stimulates the prostate.

If you don’t want to wear a plug-style tail Oxballs and Square Peg have recently introduced tails without the plug. The Square Peg one comes with a base and is designed to be put through a hole, or can be attached to a neoprene or leather harness, the Oxballs is designed to be attached to a special harness.

 

 

Collars

The origin of collars in the BDSM scene as a sign of submission and belonging come from the dog collars. So it is only natural that they fulfill the same purpose in the pup play community. Besides being an indicator they are also practical for attaching a leash or a dog tag.

Collars are probably the piece of pup gear with the widest selection of options. They come in nearly every material and color used in kink. Either coordinate it with your hood or harness or use the collar color as a hanky. If you want an inescapable feeling you can get locking ones or if you want some added play value I recommend getting a collar with more than one D-ring.

If the pup still needs training a shock collar might be the item to get. Especially for novice pups I would recommend shock collars made for BDSM purposes. If you choose one for dogs be real careful with the intensity. The electrodes and outputs are designed to even have a distinct effect when going through thick fur. Since with humans the electrodes touch bare skin on high intensity levels they can leave burn marks or cause nerve damage!

Mitts and Knee Pads

Since puppys tend to be on all fours while playing and the human being isn’t really made for this posture, protection is needed. Mitts are a little bit more fetish than security item. Usually a pup can see where he places his palms, so when choosing mitts the appearance is more important. The most commonly used types of mitts are either lockable bondage ones made out of rubber or leather which leave the pup at the mercy of their handler or mitts that have paw-like prints or cut-outs glued to the bottom. On the other hand knee pads are essential for long term pup play. When being on the knees for an extended period of time they provide comfort and protection, especially when walking around outdoor. They might not look sexy and I haven’t found ones yet tailored to the aesthetic demands of the pup community but every pup player I talked to highly recommended softly padded ones for every pup who enjoys kneeing and being on all fours for extended periods of time.

 

Harnesses

Finding the right harness for a puppy is a two step process: First you need to consider how active the puppy is. If you attach a leash to an active puppy via the harness its material should withstand greater forces so I would recommend buying a leather harness. Otherwise you can either choose rubber, leather or neoprene. The second question is the style: For a more “natural” puppy look I was told to rather take chest harnesses instead of full body harnesses. This doesn’t limit your options that much since in the last couple of years a lot of different chest harness styles – Bulldog, Pitbull, English, Top or Hunter – came out. Like with collars you can most of the times add a second color for piping to match the rest of your gear or express a certain preference hankylike.

Accessories and Play Toys

Once the puppy is full dressed in gear the is an endless amount of accessories out there. A good one to start with are dog tags so other pups and handlers can read the pup name. Besides the dog tags traditionally being made out of metal Oxballs designed cockrings with an attached dog tag so you can show your fetish even when being out in a club without and puppy gear.

When it comes to toys for the actual play, the possibilities are endless. The most common are dog bowls, bite and squeaky toys, either made for bio dogs or from special fetish manufacturers. Naming them all is impossible so I recommend going out to your local pet or fetish store.

 

Items designed for bio dogs

Some players want the real deal and buy stuff designed for bio dogs. In most cases they are a bit cheaper than BDSM toys and naturally of cause more authentic. But always keep in mind that they weren’t design for humans. Especially when it comes to collars they are designed to be worn over a thick fur so irritations are possible. If you want real dog gear I recommend trying it out even more thoroughly than you would do with normal BDSM gear even though that might get you some weird looks at the pet store.

What you should never do is eat real dog food! Most dog food has crushed bones mixed into in order to keep the teeth of dogs from getting too long. The human set of teeth and digestion organs are not design to deal with such food! If you want an almost dog-like appeal by dog treats, give the content to a bio dog and put beef jerky into them.

Why I haven’t reviewed products from Sinvention, Fetters or Regulation yet

In the last couple of month I have been getting quite some messages asking me why I feature only products from a limited selection of manufacturers (most of my toys comes from Mr S, Mister B, SlingKing and McHurt) and thus why I don’t review products from this manufacturer or why I have ignored that one for my desiderate section (Which has gotten a bit neglected). There are a number of reasons out there and because they partly play a role why today’s Christmas gift tip nearly came without pictures I decided to elaborate them:

  1.  Toy Selection Pattern
    Against widely spread believes I buy most of my toys myself. I am thankful to Mister B, HML and UberKink who sometimes provide me with toys to review but the majority of my toys from my own money. When it comes to getting a new toy I am fantasy driving. Most of the time I have a specific scene or sensation in mind I want to create and for which I am lacking the right “tool”. So if I have gotten a toy for a specific sensation it is unlikely I am going to by one from another manufacturer just to compare them. Also the collection reflects my personal play style and my fantasies and fears.
  2. Money
    This leads to the next issue: Money. I am still a student currently without a job so my toy budget is rather limited. Next to toy categories I am currently not covering at all – like hoods or breath play – especially when it comes to bondage and impact toys I know that there slight variations of toys I already own out there which for my intention of having just the right toy for the right sensation at hand (or just for the convenience of having a second or third restraint set) would be great to have. But with my limited budget I simply can’t afford the luxury to have a deep AND wide selection of toys. So for the moment I am going for wide in the field that interests me and neglect the rest. And even with stuff that has become interesting lately like some hoods they simply are out of my budget for the moment.
  3. Shopping Style
    Due to the two above factors my purchasing process is rather sophisticated: When I have a fantasy I start looking at websites and from what I know of material and design properties choose a relevance set of toys that might deliver the desired sensation and fit my budget. Once the relevance set is done I go out and take a look at the toys I consider and try them out; I rarely purchase toys online. This is of cause difficult with stores being based in London, Atlanta or Canada.
  4. Review Process
    I have been getting messages asking why I don’t write about toys that have been used on me in scenes. When I gather notes for a review I am not going under in the scene. I am focusing on how the toy performs, how the sensation alters when used differently, etc. As much as I enjoy the reviewing scenes they are not as emotionally intense as normal ones and usually don’t get the top what he wants from me as a sub. So I stage “review” scenes where I interview the tops and subs afterwards. Of cause I do have an opinion on a toy used on me after a scene. For example I certainly can say something about the Padded Locking restraints from Mr S (I like them a lot) but that opinion is too indifferent for a review. So even though I have experienced toys from Sinvenstion, Fetters and Regulation (these are the three manufacturer I get the most questions about reviews for) I can’t say more than “I liked this and disliked that in that specific scene.”
  5. Copyright Issues
    This isn’t an issue for reviews but for desiderates. For the desiderate section I am posting pictures from the manufacturer/ vendor on my website and I have to obtain the right to do so from the current copyright holder! In the last two years I have approached over three dozen web shops and manufacturer several times and only got the permission from a handful to use their material. Most of them didn’t answer at all even so I stopped bothering them.
    Please note that some of the manufacturers named here have given me the permission to use their material for my website.

All of these factors can of cause lead to the impression that I am favoring certain manufacturers. This is partly true and as much I love the ones I am currently featuring I would much rather present a broader spectrum of toys and manufacturers to the community. So in the meantime while I am trying to win the lottery and fill my dream dungeon with all the dream toys, if you want to see a specific toy reviewed or just want to support my side by sending me toys, here is a list of toys that I am interested in but are for various reasons not on my purchasing list:

Sinvenstion – Arm Immobilizer Splints

Fetters – Calf to Thigh Restraint

Regulation – Leather Bag Hood

Regulation – Chest Binder

Mister B – Closed Leather Face Mask

Mister B – Iron Whips Wocen Cat 8×4 Long

Mr S – Asylum Muzzle

Parus Leather – Restraints No. 2106 & No. 2211

HML – Wide Bondage Belt

ErosTek – ET302R

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