2013 – An Outlook

The near year is already 3 days old. So it is time to brew some tea, get some soda biscuits and change into rubber to reflect a little on the upcoming 12 month.

Things I vainly hoped for in 2012

The Recon Android App

For half a decade iOS has been THE mobile ecosystem for gays. However things have change and with high class Android devices flooding the market and more and more people getting fed up with the restrictions of iOS I hoped that Recon would finally release an Android App. Sadly, I was wrong. Let’s hope for 2013…

A better Communication Style

I don’t know if I have been raised in the 19th century or if I expect too much but the communication style of most gays and BDSM retailers is really bad – to put it in a civilized way. Regarding gays when you get a facepic and you don’t like the guy, at least write him politely that he is not your type. Just staying silence is bad style. And when it comes to toy manufacturers or retailers, it is even worse: Some stores don’t answer inquiries at all – regardless whether you write to them over their website, twitter or a normal e-mail – or you get one answer and if you answer to that e-mail again, there is silence. My outlook for the next year on that issue? Grim!

What Products I would like to see in 2013

A worthy successor of the ET312b

Most of you know that I haven’t done electro yet. But as a quality maniac if I get into electro play, I want to do it properly with decent box. Most long-time kinksters and toy shop owners I have talked to said, that there isn’t a good product out there at the moment. The majority of the new boxes are not powerful enough p.e. for large plugs but they wouldn’t also recommend the ET312b due to being complicate to use and having a horrible, only beta-like PC suite. So I really hope for a powerful, easy to use and multifunctional e-stim box in 2013.

Lanyards

I know, most of you will be laughing by now but let me explain. Many kinksters I know what to show they perversion in everyday life but can’t use products like a wristband due to a dress code or unpleasant questions from the family. So the easiest solution would be a lanyard slightly hanging out of a pocket showing the logo of a major toy manufacturer. But weirdly neither Mr S Leather nor Mister B nor RoB nor Fort Torff, etc. pp. carry such a simple item. This is even more astonishing when you look at which price point fashion or sport brands sell their lanyards for and for which little price you can get a thousand of these made in China. So large margin combined with little capital lockup costs, I can’t really understand why at least one large retailer offers lanyards.

Walltes

Another laugh but again, let me finish. Nearly every large toy distributor today started out as a small leather workshop catering to the demands of the local market. And still, many of these shops make their leather items themselves or even have a bespoken leather service because one of the core competence is high quality leather works. So again: I wonder why they don’t offer wallets. This is not only my everlasting struggle to bring kink in everyday life or my frustration that I can’t find a decent new wallet, but also a marketing issue. For many kinksters BDSM is also a lifestyle which doesn’t only influence their free time, party and mating habits, but also their mindset, their social values, it has created an own art aesthetic and so forth. Toy manufacturers can benefit from this development by not only creating a strong brand identity which interacts with the scene but also can make additional sales on lifestyle accessories – like wallets –kinksters have been buying from other brand.

What to expect from ToyTorture.com

DYI

I have long planed some Do it Yourself Articles but somehow there wasn’t the time and the place to realize them. And there probably will not during my stay in Chicago, so it will probably be fall until you will find blue prints on this website.

What I personally Hope for in 2013

Getting my visa in time for my departure on the 9th

An interesting, enriching and live changing semester abroad

Many critical readers for ToyTorture.com

Finishing my bachelor and starting my master

What I look forward to in 2013

Laughing with old friends

Meeting new friends

Dawn at Lake Shore

More kinkier, dirtier and perverted session

Cocktails and Cooking in Hamburg

Pain and Passion at Folsom in Berlin

Seeing my boy friend after 5 month in Chicago

What I Wish my Readers for 2013

Health, Success, Joy, Laughter, good Sessions and even better Friends, interesting Encounters and tempting Possibilities

BDSM Home Pharmacy

Even though all BDSM sessions should be RACK or SSC and thus shouldn’t harm the subs (or even the tops) body and soul there is always a slight chance that even in the most safe and controlled atmosphere something goes wrong. Here is a little selection of items I recommend to keep in the house to deal with the most common play related injuries.

But first, a word of warning: Most medicines which are used on the outside contain some form of oils so they can harm your rubber!

Medicine

I presume that every household has some form of basic painkiller like ASS at home. Besides that some form of magnesium is an essential especially after long and hard bondage to prevent cramps. Another way to prevent cramps, to deal with muscle problems or bruises are cooling and heating gels or cool and heat packs (p.e. a grain pillow). They are also handy for first treatment when you’ve got a fracture or got a dislocation.

Not really necessary but useful to minimize the post-session problems is some form of aluminum chloride mono compound solution for gargling after deep throating. If you have swallowed a lot of piss, spit or even nastier things make sure to have something at hand to calm your stomach. I use medicinal clay for it but others use artichoke or some form of tonic preparation. It takes some time to figure out what works best for you.

Bandages

Most BDSM related injuries can be taken care of with plasters. Some pharmacies sell especially thick ones. Have some of them at hand when your nipples are really sore and you have to work the next day.

But sometimes heavier wounds can occur p.e. after a heavy single tail whipping scene or when you have gotten a fracture or dislocation. Both things need immediate treatment from a doctor! But having some bandages at home for a first treatment is advisable.

Ointment

Most sessions end in some sore areas or abrasion. To make them heal more quickly a couple of different ointments are useful. When you have played really hard and the skin is already weeping or shows small scissures you should use some kind of panthenol ointment. If the skin is “just” red after spanking or flogging a salve with urea, tea tree oil and maybe some cooling additive compound like peppermint extract will do the job. Since peppermint extract is quite aggressive do not put a crème containing it on cracked skin!

Especially after anal play I recommend calendula lotion for the anus and the sphincter.

Mental Health

Most Kinkster underestimate the mental impact a session, especially a mental breakdown can have. So it is always wise to have some way to heal a sore soul. The easiest physical thing to brighten someone’s mood is candy, especially chocolate. Sometimes the top has driven the sub so far over the edge that his touch and presence is not comforting but scaring and thus makes the situation only worse. Most subs I have talked to prefer a firm pillow or a stuffed animal in that situation.

Miscellaneous

Just to make this article complete, here a list of items most of us have already at home:

–          Condoms

–          Disposable Gloves

–          Rope cutter

Christmas Gift Tip IV: Books

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve so you are running out of time if you need some gifts. So today I present you a selection of one of the most basic and easiest available gift: Books. I haven’t read all of them, but I have gotten recommendation from friends who own them. If you have a good gay book store around it should be possible to at least take look inside the book so you can check in advance if it is the right gift to present.

Leatherman's Handbook IIThe Leatherman’s Handbook II is THE classic of all leather and BDSM books. There is no discussion, every serious person into BDSM how has some interest in books should own this book. Despite the name it is not all about leather but also about BDSM. Since the origin of this book is way over 30 years old some parts are unintentionally funny. But still: This is the classic!

Skin TightsWhen you are or getting into rubber Skin Tight is the right choice. It talks a lot about rubber in general, the scene and the history. A fun book to read and not too thick (for some weird reason people accustomed to Facebook and Twitter seem to be scared by thick volumes :D).

The Complete Leatherboy HandbookI haven’t read the Complete Leatherboy Handbook myself but a friend of mine recommended it. I will be happy to get any feedback on this recommendation from you after Christmas.

Family JewelsAnother book which I haven’t gotten in my hand yet but which a friend found highly interesting and amusing is Family Jewels a book about CBT. And just for this camp interpretation of rough CBT on the cover you got to have it if you are a pain queen.

Pauls BücherIf you can read German or need a reason to learn German two of my favorite German books on gay BDSM. Pauls Bücher (Paul’s Books) is based on a real life master slave relation. They articulated their fears, wishes, etc. throughout a series of books which are reprinted in this book. It is one of the most intense pieces on BDSM I have ever read and is defiantly worth reading!

Bondage - Ausstieg aus der SelbstkontrolleSadly I haven’t found yet an English substitute for Bondage – Ausstieg aus der Selbstkontrolle (Bondage – Giving up self-control). It is a book about Bondage covering theory and practice for interested newcomers but also has a lot to offer for experienced bondage master.

Male BondageBrave - Men and FetishWhen you are not so much into reading or are looking for a more or less shocking book for your coffee table, take a look at Male Bondage or Brave – Men and Fetish.

SlingKing Leather Blindfold

Vendor: SlingKing

First Impression and Construction

This is a fairly basic toy: Being made out of three pieces  – two straps and the eye cover – of cow nappa leather the construction is simple yet the stitching and the leather show the very high quality. The blindfold is kept closed by a big Velcro patch which allows diameters between 14cm and 18.5cm. The two straps are 3cm wide and are bare leather on the inside. The eye cover is lined with a soft padding under a fabric cover and has a typical blindfold form with two roughly oval areas connected with a bridge over the nose back. The covered area per eye is 7cm in heights and 11cm in length.

I got the blindfold in black since it goes with all my other toys but you can have it in white, red or black and red.

Detail of the velcro in oder to adjust the size

Detail of the velcro in oder to adjust the size

Playing with it

I got the blindfold during Folsom 2011 and it instantly became one of my favorite toys. All sensations are some much intense when you are striped from your sighted. Not knowing what will happen and having to trust your Master in every way is a great experience. Even just the straps of a flogger just lightly fondling over your body will give you shivers.

Inside material of the blind fold

Inside material of the blind fold

Because this blindfold is much softer than others I have tried out and due to the Velcro adapting to every head size is fits very well and it blocks all light. Since there is no pressure the blindfold can be worn nearly infinitely long. The Velcro strip will probably not last for forever but with being the best yet least expensive mask on the market it is totally ok.

Conslusion: The best yet most basic blindfold on the market I have seen until now
Pro Cons Where to get Price
Good quality Closing mechanism will fail sooner or later SlingKing (Manufacturer) 9,95€
Easy to handle  
Blocks out light very well  
Very adjustable  

 

 

Christmas Gift Tip III: Everyday Pride

Christmas Gift Tip II: Everyday Pride

After another step to the total rubberization of your playroom and some art to make your living room a bit kinkier, it is now time to bring some pervert’s pride into your or the presentee’s everyday life.

The easiest and most common piece to show your affection is the wristband and probably everybody owns at least a simple one and/ or a wrist wallet. However, there are more elaborate ones, like a 3-strap wristband which has much more presence than a smaller one.

Wrist 2

If you like the feeling of a restraint being bound on your wrist but don’t want to run around with an actual restraint, maybe the 2 buckle Scorpio wristband will still your desire.

Wrist 3

For an even rougher look, try the linked armband or one with rivets. When you have a strong wrist the small size might also be wearable as a wristband.

Wrist 4 Wrist 1

Maybe a wristband is too obvious for you and your living situation. Then you can consider a belt from Mister B. It retails in a thinner, 4cm wide version which you can wear to a suit

Gürtel 4cm II Gürtel 4cm I

or you can have it with a double thorn clasp and 5cm width which again has more presence and won’t fit into most dress pants.

Gürtel 5cm II Gürtel 5cm I

When purchasing a belt you have to be careful: It sells with or without the Mister B logo embossment at the end, so you can choose if you want to have a bit of kinkiness or just a plain, high quality belt.

Of cause there are some pigs out there who want to show really brash their nasty desires. For such perverts the Gear Store Berlin carries a great line of t-shirts which enables you to tell the people around you about your occupation

Slave Master

or some nasty kink.

Dirty DicksSneaker Cleaner

Yet pervert’s pride doesn’t stop with attire. How about a leather gym bag

Gym Bag

or a small toiletries bag from a kinky brand in order to score some flirtatious looks in the shower.

Toiletries Bay

You can even get a matching travel bag

Travel Bag

and a stylish way to transport your suspension bars, canes and other long, not too heavy toys.

cane Bag

What I want for Christmas

In the last couple of days people asked what I want for Christmas. So here is a short list what would make which part of my personality me happy.

The Toy Collector

Mister B Yellow-Black Rubber Restraints Set – the only really good rubber restraints I have seen to date

Boutique Bizzarre Leather Whip Size L with soft leather – once experienced it, loved it, got to have it!

E-Stim toys – When coming back from the USA I want to make a big feature on e-play. But I have nothing. So I need a good box, electrodes, other toys, etc.

The Economist
Mr. S Gift Card – the best way to make my stay in the USA enjoyable 😉

The Connoisseur

Lars Deike’s Painting “Unterwerfung” – Since I have seen this painting in September I am intrigued by its rough yet intimate sexual energy – despite featuring only skin heads.

A bottle of Comb 9 Gin – Can’t get this gin in Germany but reviews promises a unique taste experience.

The Luxury Bitch

Dunhill Avorities North South Bag – Finally a stylish man purse which is large enough for a small toy collection 😉

Smythson Hamilton A4 Lippiatt Folder – The only way to store and travel with stationary in style.

The Academic

Too many books to

The Average Kinkster Joe

A new rubber outfit – Put together black Chaps with yellow stripes, a codpiece jock with a yellow stripe and a zipper shirt with yellow stripes and finally I have a play outfit which looks fairly good and isn’t a surf suit.

Two new belts – 95cm of leather to bring more kinks into everyday life.

The entire Fred Perry Twin Tipped Polo Collection – I can’t simply have enough Fred Perry Polos in my Drawer

Some Crazy Nike Max90/ BW – For years my friends have been complaining that my foot wear is too dark and I am finally comfortable with a bit more colorful – that is if the all black leather Max90 isn’t too tempting 😉

Christmas Gift Tip II: Paintings from Lars Deike

When it comes to kinky gifts most people think of gear, toys and maybe coffee table books. But why not support a fellow kinkster and enhance your living space by getting yourself some art. So today’s Christmas gift tip will be the paints from Lars Deike.

Lars Deike is one of Germany’s most renowned nude and fetish photographer. He has studied photography in LA and has exhibitions all over Germany and abroad. Two years ago he started to paint fetish motives in acrylic paint on canvas. He draws his inspiration from his photography and own experiences in the fetish world. I first came in contact with Lars’ paintings this Folsom when exhibited his paintings at Axel Hotel in Berlin. I was instantly intrigued by the motives, the style and the briskness of his pictures.

You can find a variety of different motives on his website deike.de. The pictures can be ordered via e-mail or you can commission your own motives. There is also a post card collection available. Sadly no poster and art prints are offered yet

Regulation Rubber Flogger

As a rubber fetist myself I sometimes find the dominance of leather in the kinky scene annoying especially when it comes to toys. Of cause, leather is the ideal material for many purposes but nevertheless when you are into the feel and the smell of latex nothing else will do. So I am always happy to find a toy made out of rubber.

A few weeks ago a friend of mine told me about the rubber flogger from Regulation which he tried out in London. Being into rubber himself he was delighted by the smell and feeling and amazed by the build quality. Even though rubber isn’t as strong as leather this flogger will probably be good enough for a strong and serious flogging session. And serious it will be due to the rubber being softer than other rubber flogger but as an artificial material it is still harder with sharper edges than a soft leather flogger.

The flogger comes in various color variations and costs £50 each at the time of the publishing of this article.

Finally: A few Thoughts about How I write Reviews

I know this blog entry has been promised for a long time and finally today during my lunch break I found some moments to articulate my thoughts.

After the test of the Mister S Talon Eagle Clamps I was a bit shocked: The clamps are good toy for experienced pain pigs and it only scored in the mid 7s. So I took a look at other toys I haven’t tested yet and scored them. The result was devastating. Even the ones I considered real good toys scored below 8. I wanted them to score better, but the numbers didn’t add up which got me thinking: How good is the rating system?

After a deep and critical look I came to the conclusion: It is not very good. Every toy I own is “up to the task”, even the bad ones so every toy should score 10 on this category. So the task score was influenced by other criteria which got own categories. And looking at the other ones I came to the conclusion that the rating is more subjective than I want it to be in all categories. In the end it comes down to question: Does the toy what I want it to do? And this can’t be the answer to the question if the toy is good for the reader.

Before starting this website I knew that toys can hardly be measures with objective criteria but I wasn’t aware of how difficult it was. So I need a new, more qualitative approach: The test will feature descriptions of how the toy performs in all important areas like security, handling, etc. so that everybody can decide if the performance in a specific category influences the usefulness of the toy for oneself. I hope that this new testing modus will create easier to understand and more universal reviews.

If you have any thoughts or advice for me on this topic, please let me know.

December – The Crazy Month

Some of you might have already noticed: This month everything is a little bit different on ToyTorture.com. This is due to several reasons: I am working fulltime until Christmas eve meaning I mostly get hope way past 8pm and at home Christmas correspondence, chores, etc. await me. So sadly this website has a slightly lower priority than it should have. This means: The weekly update will not come as regular as you might want it to come. I wish I could promise you that things will get better after Christmas but with my semester abroad approaching and the uncertainty how things will work out at North Park University it probably will take until February or even March until everything runs smoothly again.

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