Best for Self Play – CBT, Edging & Milking

Oxballs Ballstretcher from Left to Right: Bullballs, Squeeze and Balls-T

In the last installment of this little series, I have already dipped a bit into the waters of CBT by looking at e-stim toys to torment your junk. Today will be all about manual toys to bring pain and pleasure to your genitals.

On numerous occasions I have talked about the effect of ball stretchers: Besides the obscene look and making your balls feel larger, they keep the testicles from being pulled towards your body when having an orgasm. This in combination with the bouncy motion during fucking or jerking makes your orgasms more intense. When starting out with ball stretching, I recommend the Oxballs ball stretcher made out of their various squishy materials. They take a bit of practice to put one, but if you make a mistake the effects are less painful than with a metal ball stretcher. Also, they cover a wider range of stretch which is important when you do not know your right size.

The MC Customs Ferrula

Ball stretchers are the perfect basis for ball slapping and busting. They provide a good grip and keep the balls from moving away. For ball busting, my toy of choice is the Oxballs Busting Paddle. It’s wide and heavy yet soft head delivers a strong and thuddy impact sensation on your balls. For more stingy sensation or slapping action, I prefer the MC Customs Ferrula paddle. Just be careful when you hit the balls with the Ferrula. Hitting the seminal ducts too often and hard can lead to permanent injuries.

Less painful but also requiring some care and attention when playing with them are vacuum cylinders from Thickwall Cylinder. Carefully pumping your dick, will make it puffy and more sensitive. So some people use pumping their dicks as foreplay for edging or milking. While pumping can help with erectile dysfunctions, the permanent increase in penis size has not yet been proving scientifically. Though, if you want to find out if your dick size will increase over the upcoming weeks of isolation, it will be an extremely enjoyable research process 😉

The Doxy Die Cast House in its Case

There are numerous different toy to make edging or milking your dick more pleasurable. The simple yet effective toys are the masturbators from Bad Dragon. They all have unique textures inside and are made out of supersoft silicone to accommodate even XL dicks. Unlike other masturbators the sleeve is not house in a case but you grip it directly. This way you can dose the pressure intensity just the way you need it. A step up the technology ladder is the Doxy Massager. Either use it on its own to tease the frenulum or add an attachment to pull over your glans, the strong vibrations will quickly get you off once, twice, thrice… What I often do is combining the Bad Dragon sleeve with the Doxy pressed against my perineum to get both my dick and my prostate stimulated. Finally, if you have tense muscles from the unusual workout at home, the Doxy is actually also a really good and strong massage tool! If you want the high end,  100% hands-free solution to your boiling balls, get yourself a Venus 2000. This milking machine will either keep you on the edge for hours or milk one consecutive orgasm out of your nuts after the other. It is a hefty investment, but it will bring you joy for years to come once this crazy situation is over.

In the next and final chapter of this little journey into Self Play I will take a look at Bondage Gear.

Venus 2000

The Venus 2000 with all the Accessories the Standard Package comes with

Vendor: VenusForMen

Construction

The Venus 2000’s main element is the black milker unit itself which houses the vacuum pump. It is made out of a black, slightly textured polymer, measures 240x155x208mm and weights just short of 5½kg. On top there is a handle for “easy” carrying. At the back of the milker there are two ports for the controls: The rotary control to adjust the speed between 8 and 300 strokes per minute and the air control for increasing or decreasing the air pressure inside the receiver which determines how intense the strokes can be felt and how securely the receiver stays on the sub. Both are connected through a 1200mm long cable resp. hose. Also on this panel you plug the power cord in and connect the milker with the receiver using a 1200mm hose.

Detail of the Back Panel of the Milker Unit

Besides the machine itself and the control boxes each Venus 2000 comes with one made to measure receiver. Having a custom fit receiver is the basis for an effective milking because it is not too loose or too tight. A bit of leeway is not a problem though. If you – like me – are often entertaining different dick sizes, VenusForMen can help you with a set which covers the most common dick sizes. However, if you have got a regular play partner, making him bring his own custom receiver is a good idea. The receiver is made out of a transparent polymer and outfitted with a rubber liner. The tube’s top end is sealed with a black vinyl cap which is outfitted with a security valve. Close to the bottom is a short brass duct to connect the receiver with the milking machine. When not in use and especially when cleaning the receiver, the duct should be covered by a black vinyl cap to keep moisture and dust from entering the receiver.

Each receiver you order comes with a 76cm long spare liner for replacement. The Venus 200 package also consists of a cleaning brush, 130ml of water-based ID Glide, the power cord and a little black zipper bag for storing all the accessories.

The Venus 2000’s Controls: Left for the Pressure inside the Receiver, Right Power Switch and Stroke Control

Besides the Venus 2000 I also got the Head & Nipple Massager Set. It consists of two 80mm tall receivers with a diameter of 55mm. along with two 300mm long hoses and a T-connector for connecting both receivers to the main suction hose.

Playing with the Venus 2000

The bad news first: The Venus 2000 is not an “easy out of the box fun” toy. Setting it up the Venus itself only takes a minute: Plug in the power cord and the two controls, connect the receiver with the milker unit, lube up the dick and the inside of the receiver and bit and you are ready to go – theoretically. Practically I find it impossible to adjust the air pressure inside the receiver just so that it stays in place while jerking. There are different ways to keep it in place; I have seen rope or bungee cords in combination with TPR cockrings or different tripod accessory layouts (I use the one YngMstrDetroit developed for his playroom). Once it is setup for play, you run into a bit of a problem when you are uncut: The receiver will inevitably pull your foreskin back which the majority of my testee panel – including me – found uncomfortable and made it harder to come. If you know a way to keep the glans covered when using the Venus, please write me an e-mail! Furthermore despite being compact, it is quite heavy so especially when you air travel it is not a toy you lightly take with you.

My Device to hold the Receiver in place made ouf ot Tripod Accessories (Design by YngMstrDetroit)

So much for the bad part. The good part is, it is a hell of a lot fun as an edging toy. The alternation of increasing and decreasing vacuum massaged the dick and moves the receiver up and down a bit, stimulating the nerve endings and giving the sub the feeling of being close to cumming for extended periods of time. Through overstimulation the feeling can go down a bit, but will come back rather sooner than later.

As a milking toy, the Venus 2000 is a bit like E-Stim: It takes practice. Only few of my testees who have never been connected to a Venus 2000 came during the first scene. It takes some time to figure out which is the best receiver size (if they don’t have their own custom one), how much air pressure needs to be in the tube for optimal stimulation and which stroke speed is the most effective. When it comes to stroke speed, it is an urban legend that more is better. The sensation of the receiver on the dick can be so intense that a quick stroke speed can overexcite the nerves and the sub doesn’t feel anything anymore. So especially for the first two or three milking scenes is to bound the sub comfortably and blindfolded so that he can focus on the milking sensation, get used to it, struggle against the building tension and ultimately give in to one, two or even more orgasms. If you want quick results, additional stimulation like e-stim, vibration on the taint or hypno files are a good thing. Once the sub has learned to climax through the Venus 2000, the fun game of keeping the just on the edge for hours until he loses his mind or making him cum over and over until his dick is sore.

Head & Nipple Massager Set

Of cause there are also kinksters at the other end of the spectrum: People who cum very quickly. I had subs who managed to come within the first minute and then another three time within the next half hour! Scene after scene it became harder for him to shoot so the Venus 2000 actually helped desensitize him a bit. Another testee has problems getting and staying hard. Because the Venus sucks merciless he could reach some quality orgasms with it. Sadly he lives quite far away so we could not look at long-term effects. He actually got himself a used Venus 2000 and now works on his condition. In his experience using the receivers without the liner is more effective because the vacuum pulls directly on the dick like a vacuum pump (I personally prefer the more controlled suction of a dedicated penis pump with more comfortable cylinders). I will update this post in half a year or so to see if regular improves his condition.

A really fun accessory for the Venus 2000 are the Head & Nipple Massager Set.  Especially when you “prime” the nipple with a vacuum pump to be extra sensitive, the waves of suction are fun, especially as a constant stimulation during sensation play. A single massager can be used on the dick in actually two ways. Either with the cap on, just massaging the glans. I found this focused stimulation of the dick’s part with the highest nerve ending density a very effective way to “teach” the dick the Venus stimulation. Also, the shaft is exposed for all kinds of play like way or e-stim just to name two. With the cap off, the massage can be administered along the shaft, leaving the glans exposed to many deviant ideas: Head polishing, sounding, e-stim or adding a massager with a head attachment.

Two Receivers

Finally a word on the lubes you should use with the receivers. VenusForMen recommends only water-based lubes. I will add that slicker ones like the ID Glide which comes with the toy or Elbow Grease H2O Thick Gel work better then thinner ones like Swiss Navy because the thicker will stay in place. Finding the right amount of lube takes practice. Use too little and the milking will not be comfortable enough for the sub to climax (entering the realm of CBT…), use too much and the receiver can pop off too easily. In any case you should relube regularly. In the manual VenusForMen advises against using silicone and oil-based lube. While oil-based lube destroys the liner, you can actually use silicone lube if you are careful. Use only little and don’t distribute it too generously because the cap at the top only stays in place through friction. If silicone lube gets between the cap and the liner, the pressure inside the liner will be strong enough to make it pop off. Once silicone lube has gotten there, it is a pain in the ass to get every last bit cleaned up so the cap sticks again.

Conclusion: Powerful milking machine with requires experience to unleash the full potential.
Pro Cons Where to get Price
Very strong and finely adjustable stroke Requires device to keep in receiver in place Venus 2000 $956
Additional Receiver $39
Receiver is custom build for best stimulation Head & Nipple Massager Set $78
In most cases dick needs to “learn” to orgasm from the stimulation
Easy to set up and compact for storing away
High quality build
Disclaimer: This toy was sent to me by VenusForMen for an honest and unbiased review.

 

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